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Most people believe, including me, that nearly all human life throughout the 21st century in every area, is incredibly progressive. That the patriarchal way of life belongs to the history books and is therefore not found in today's world.
However, at work performing company business, and working together with my international team, I visit different parts of the world. I can see that all is not as rosy as it seems.
Firstly, there are large areas where women are just starting to think about being self-sufficient and independently building their own lives.
Secondly, even at the very heart of our civilized world, for example, living in Europe, which is thriving, a girl may still grow up to find that she is completely helpless to cope with today's modern experiences because, for a long time, she has continued to be too obedient from childhood.
Finally, nowadays, more and more women genuinely want to devote themselves exclusively to their family and children and then discover that they want more out of life. They realize that they have no idea where to start in personal development for women. My article today is meant for all the women mentioned above. And also, for all their acquaintances who want to support them. Including the parents who currently have young girls who want to find out how to lay the foundations for their child's future well-being.
Today I will show you how to start a self-development process, draw up a road map that will help you through this route, and be inspired on the road towards your ideal.
Self-development for women: the initial steps
I strongly recommend you start from the beginning, expressly, by setting priorities, choosing goals or guidelines. Any ready-made plans, marathons, guides for self-development, personal growth, and psychological transformation typically require immediate change. Which is nearly impossible to apply in real life, so you won't be able to use a ready-made "roadmap".
So, that you do not feel too overwhelmed, I will offer you clear examples. Provisionally, your aim could be to have a "harmonious relationship with your body." You want to be calm, accepting, and not too demanding of yourself, although, you're going to be disciplined. These are going to be the guiding principles for your self-development around self-love and self-acceptance. You will find that your priorities will follow on naturally. You decide whether you drive yourself to the gym, order your favorite pasta in an Italian restaurant, and make for yourself pancakes with maple syrup for breakfast, making sure that you are taking care of your physical health. Additionally, you do not forget about physical activity.
Now is the right time for a plan. If there were step-by-step instructions for women's self-development, we could have safely skipped it. However, you will need to create a plan for yourself. General advice and guidance can help, even though they won't do the job for you. Your plan should include:
➔ The ultimate objective (a harmonious relationship with your body).
➔ Intermediate objectives (work on self-esteem, self-acceptance, sign up to the gym, create a new menu every day).
➔ How you will achieve these goals (visit a psychologist, take specific courses, work on your finances, gain relevant knowledge).
➔ Time frame (for example, the path to your final goal will take a year, the path to your intermediate goals will take two months for each objective).
Women's self-development doesn't have anything to do with the instant results. Why?
I would like you to imagine an imaginary scale of self-development, just like a cone flask in a chemistry lab, it won't fill to the brim in just a couple of days. In the right way, it's going to take your whole life, and there will be many flasks. Sometimes the solutions contained in them will spill, foam, and cause unexpected chemical reactions. The perfect composition does not work the first time around. This is natural, so I don't give up on the first failure, the tenth, or the twentieth. For the twenty-first time, you will find that everything will work out.
Women's self-development is ongoing, exciting, and an essential process for the people around. I am often told that self-development is easier than discovering a catalyst for a quick start. I recommend that after immediately drawing up a plan (and not for just one area of your life, but several, or even for all of them) take a small but crucial step towards their application. For example, make an appointment with a psychologist, find free online fitness classes, and order gym wear for these classes. Isn't that a start?
What are the rules of female self-development that no longer work?
Many self-development courses for women advise enlisting the support of others. I don't see much sense in this, are you really developing yourself for your husband, close friend, or mother, and not for yourself? I prefer not to recklessly spend money on every course I find. I carefully choose courses that align with my self-development direction. For example, if I plan to "improve my English," I'll go for an online business English course. Rather than a system that will help me set my goals and then magically be prepared to achieve them. Lectera students, by the way, are mostly of the same opinion.
I am not impressed by the advice "Make new acquaintances", "Learn to love yourself" and "Don't give up". We are making new acquaintances literally every day. Self-love remains not an easy thing that we can learn after one suggestion. The cheesy "Don't give up!" sounds alarm bells in the minds of any career woman. Another favorite saying that I grew tired of hearing in high school is "Learn new things." This suggestion acts as a transparent fence made of clear plastic in the front of the quagmire of "ignorance". In other words, it doesn't help. It sounds good, though.
What helps to inspire my self-development?
First, of course, this is going to be literature for women's self-development both "professional", for example, psychology, creative self-realization, emotional intelligence, creating comfort at home, and "for general development". I tend to select titles more often from the second section, which can include popular science literature about astrophysics and black holes, the irreplaceable "Rich Dad, Poor Dad" by Robert Kiyosaki, books in German, and foreign bestsellers including detective novels.
In my view, the best books for women's self-development are:
- Jack Canfield's concise "The Success Principles." The author has gathered various ideas about personal growth and transformed them into a very lively and, most importantly, valuable book.
- Dan Waldschmidt's short "To Self-Excel, Be The Best Version Of Yourself!" I like the fact that there are no tips like "Wait until everything gets better before you start self-development."
- M.J. Ryan's Simple and straightforward "This year I will..." includes lots of inspiring examples from life, scientific arguments, as well as listing methods that work for beginners in conscious self-development.
Secondly, I used to watch many inspirational self-development films for women to find the motivation to keep pushing forward. Particularly memorable was the "Businesswoman" from 1988 (this movie gives you hope and the passion for overcoming any challenges). "Little Women" from 1994 (a film that inspires confidence). As well as "Miss Congeniality" from 2000 (a cool comedy which brings you down to earth about career heaven). You don't need to be inspired by films about powerful women. Even a cartoon character you loved from childhood can be a role model.
Have you been thinking about conscious personal growth for a while? I have good news for you! If you have been reading this sentence, you have already taken the first, and most crucial step towards your self-development. Be inspired, know that you can achieve goals that at this stage seem too far away or too ambitious. Take one small action step today (or even better right now). I am confident that you will be able to make any of your dreams come true.
